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NonADHDI am the parent of an ADHD child, but I am also a non-ADHD spouse. Please can you help me with some tips to cope better as I am at the end of my tether?

The reply

People who have ADHD are high maintenance, have poor social skills, battle with time and money management etc etc, but there must have been something that attracted you sufficiently to walk down the aisle.

I think this is a good starting point for getting the relationship back on track or ultimately deciding it is not worth the effort.

What was it that attracted you to your ADHD partner?
• Was it their love of extreme sports, fast cars and hectic social life
• Their exciting and unusual careers
• Chemistry and high sex drive
• Being quick witted, intelligent and funny
• Are you a rescuer?
• Do you like controlling others?

Likewise, what did your ADHD partner see in you?
couple apart• Was it your ability to manage the finances?
• Was it your steady job?
• Chemistry and high sex drive?
• Your intelligence and sense of humour?
• Mutual love of adventure and travel
• You made your partner feel good about him/herself?

What has changed? What has gone wrong?

Why is it that the things that you found so endearing about each other in the beginning, are now destroying your relationship?

The answer lies in mutual expectations.