We all know that females of the species are different to the males.
This is true in how ADHD affects women and men. The Inattentive Type is predominantly female, while the males are mainly the Hyperactive Type.
This is one of the reasons that so many women with the condition are missed in school, the fact the symptoms only start displaying around puberty, as opposed to just after birth in the hyperactive type.
For reasons unknown and never intended, most of my clients have been women. Teachers, Mothers, professors, doctors, engineers, and so on. I have a great passion for all people who live with ADHD, and those who live alongside it.
Inside that great passion I have an intense interest in women who have the condition. It was over a decade ago that I realised that most women are more severely affected by ADHD than most men are. There are many reasons for this, far too many to list in this article.
Women with ADHD are also perceived differently to their male counterparts. The vast majority of non-ADHD people are cruel to say the least - especially in their judgements of people who have the condition.
ADDers carry labels like discounted hard-to-sell products in a supermarket. None of them are complimentary.
Women, in addition, get judged in different ways, usually more vicious. Whereas ADHD boys and men are usually just regarded as boisterous, loud, crude, impulsive, even uncouth. Conventional wisdom is that males are supposed to act that way.
Women however, will be judged as morally bankrupt because their homes are a mess, disrespectful if they are late, or if they forget someone’s name, or worse a child’s birthday. Daydreaming - a hallmark characteristic - while in conversation is usually judged as a sign of arrogance.
All this callousness conspires to drain what little self-esteem ADHD women might have left. When I get them as clients many are already broken, plodding downheartedly along life’s brutal path, and importantly, have no idea why.
I agree with and support the campaign that is starting to flicker into a flame that at the very least women with ADHD can deflect the cruelty, but as important, stop the callous labelling of ADHD women.
Ultimately, this will lessen the senseless mockery of all ADDers!
Know The Jargon - ADHD Acronyms
ADDer - a person who has ADHD or ADD
ADHD - Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder
ADD - Attention Deficit Disorder
SCT - Sluggish Cognitive Tempo - a new name for ADD
ODD - Oppositional Defiance Disorder
CD - Conduct Disorder
OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Bi-polar - Bi-polar Disorder, used to be Manic-Depression
SPD - Sensory Processing Disorder
PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder
ACT - Action Consequence Trigger - monitoring forms devised and supplied by Living ADDventure®