AbbeyOldGoing through my archives I came across a wonderful story of kindness in action.

There’s no mention of ADHD in the article, but I know why I put it into my Evernote “ADHD Blog Topics” Notebook, there's some excellent ADHD Behaviour in the tale.

It comes from an email I received on the 12th October 2011

The characters are an anonymous American post office official, a 4 year-old girl, her Mother, and their dog.

The dog - Abbey - was 14 years old and had just died. The story teller’s 4 year old daughter - Meredith - was inconsolable about Abbey’s death. She asked if she could a write a letter to God so that God would recognise Abbey.

She dictated the following words to her Mother:

Dear God,
Will you please take care of my dog? She died yesterday and is with you in heaven. I miss her very much. I am happy that you let me have her as my dog even though she got sick. I hope you will play with her. She likes to play with balls and to swim. I am sending a picture of her so when you see her You will know that she is my dog. I really miss her.
Love, Meredith

That letter in itself is a great example of love. But the crux of this story is still to come.

Meredith and her Mom put the letter, with a picture of Abbey into an envelope addressed to “God/Heaven.” Meredith pasted lots of stamps, because “it would take a lot of stamps to get to God in Heaven,” and posted it.

Rogers BookA few days later a package wrapped in gold paper arrived on their porch. Opening the parcel with great excitement, out popped a book called, “When a Pet Dies, by Mr Rogers.”

Taped to the inside cover was Meredith’s letter, and on the first page was the photograph of Abbey with a note.

Dear Meredith,

Abbey arrived safely in heaven.

Having the picture was a big help. I recognised Abbey right away.

Abbey isn't sick anymore. Her spirit is here with me just like it stays in your heart. Abbey loved being your dog. Since we don't need our bodies in heaven, I don't have any pockets to keep your picture in, so I am sending it back to you in this little book for you to keep and have something to remember Abbey by.

Thank you for the beautiful letter and thank your mother for helping you write it and sending it to me. What a wonderful mother you have. I picked her especially for you. I send my blessings every day and remember that I love you very much. By the way, I'm easy to find, I am wherever there is love.


AbbeyHeavenSo why did I file this story away? Firstly, the actions of the anonymous post office official who got “distracted” from his or her job, and went to a lot of trouble, and some expense, to put this little girl’s heart at rest, and provide peace for her.

The wonderful “reply from God” is a brilliant example of love in action. The prime lesson we can learn from this story is that love is a verb, something you do, not just say.

Secondly, Meredith’s mother going to all the trouble of letting her daughter dictate the letter, finding a picture of their beloved dog, putting a lot of stamps on the envelope, and ensuring that Meredith posted the letter, to God is another example of love is a verb, and excellent parenting.

The benefits to Meredith are life-long. She knew she could write a letter to God and get an answer, a confidence builder at that age will be hugely influential for the rest of her life.

Such a simple action, such kindness, such love!

Love is the only justification for getting distracted.

I don't know who the people in this story are, as I have lost the links to the email I received all those years ago, and could not trace them. I hope they don't mind me using excerpts from this story. The pictures of the dogs are stock pictures.

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