- Written by Pat Pughe-Parry Pat Pughe-Parry
- Parent Category: ADHD People ADHD People
- Published: 17 February 2015 17 February 2015
I struggle to maintain a tidy desk. It is a very close reflection of my mind or perhaps it is the other way around.
Since being diagnosed with ADHD 9 years ago I have worked really hard to learn to manage my ADHD.
It is something I have to work on every day using the tools I learned during the Living ADDventure® ADHD Coaching Programme. There is no quick fix.
In some areas I have been pretty successful. I have learned to control a great deal of my impulsivity. I have learned to listen better, to judge less and to express my feelings in a more constructive way without bottling things up and then exploding.
I am less co-dependent and have more confidence in myself and my abilities to achieve and I have learned to say NO instead of being a chronic people pleaser.
I have even managed to keep my clothes cupboards tidy for about 4 months at a time and my house is not too much of a tip.
Gosh! I sound almost perfect don't I?
Well looking at the picture of my desk you can understand that I have a long way to go and I will probably never be tidy with my admin 100% up to date.
Like most ADDers I am interested in everything and my brain races from topic to topic hardly stopping to top up its oxygen supply. I have learned that not every idea that passes through my mind is the next great business that I just have to get up and running NOW.
Technology, writing and education are my 3 great passions.
Within Living ADDVenture® I use these passions to build our websites, write content, and do the marketing via Social Media, Newsletters, Blogs, Press Releases etc. ADHD is a huge topic so I am never short of content to write and share.
Combining my passion for education with technology, I created a website called Braving Technology which is where I am working towards helping those afraid of technology to become internet and computer literate.
I have a personal blog where I can share anything personal that I feel like writing about that lights a fire under my butt.
I also have the plots of 4 novels that I have started.
Then of course there are dishes to wash, meals to prepare, and the dreaded piles of admin.
It is no wonder I am frequently overwhelmed and when I am overwhelmed I procrastinate because I just don't know where to start and how to prioritise.
Thanks to a client I think I have found a way to get going without forcing my random mind into a disciplined track that I know I cannot sustain.
Our client suggested I put my 4 novel topics into a jar, pull one out and get started on that one.
But what about all the other stuff that I need and want to do? Guilt about neglecting the other tasks adds to my feelings of being overwhelmed.
In the picture is my Passion Jar.
As I think of articles, blog posts, newsletters or stories I want to write, research I need to do, and improvements to our websites and social media pages I need to make, I write the item on a piece of paper and drop it in the jar.
Like most ADDers TO DO lists it won't be long before the jar is filled to the brim.
Each day before doing a "random lucky draw" I dedicate 30 minutes to the Finance and Admin "have to's".
I also commit to selecting at least 1 item that feeds my soul each day. So if I do 3 "loves" I have to 3 x 30mins of "have to's".
As ADDers, we have to accept that our minds are not orderly and the sooner we learn to accept our own rhythm, the happier we will be.
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