In the first article on this topic we established that the golden rule is that no one beyond immediate family, but with exceptions needs to know about your ADHD.
In business that same rule must be adhered to. The consequences can be career long, and may even result in a career change.
Business owners and managers cannot be expected to know a lot about ADHD. Mostly, the condition is right in front of them, and they don’t see it.
But tell them that that same person has the condition, and they become changed people, as you will see in 2 examples below. All of sudden that person has all the “bad attributes” of the condition that they have heard of, most of which are mythical in substance.
One of my clients used to be theatre nursing sister, a highly stressful job. She was much in demand because she was so good under pressure.
One year she went off to UK to earn proper money. She had no problem finding a position, in fact she had three to choose from. Half way through her contract, one of children back in SA went of the rails. My client fell apart - she was helpless and had to rely on people she knew and trusted to sort out the problem.
This affected her work, although no one noticed. She went to the matron and bared her soul, told her about her ADHD, as her errant son had it too.
The next day, my highly qualified client with an impeccable and glowing track record was placed under the supervision of a junior nurse assistant - a “candy striper” they are called.
My client was devastated, and duly came home early.
Another client was in sales - large expensive items. Again she had a excellent track record, and turned away an offer a month. She also had an emotional family problem that upset her. Her manager sent her to an psychologist to assist her through this time.
The psychologist soon referred her to me for the ADHD side of the treatment. Two weeks later my client phoned me in a state. Shed been told that her services were no longer required. When she asked why, she was told that the report from the psychologist said she had ADHD.
We discussed the issue in depth over the next couple of days. She finally decided that even if she won an appeal, the emotional cost would be unbearable, and the financial cost exorbitant. There was no guarantee that she would win the case - we couldn’t find a precedent.
She had no trouble in finding a new position, and she took my advice and didn’t tell anyone at the company about her condition, it’s not required.
Ironically, in some industries having ADHD is almost a prerequisite for success. These industries are mostly creative in nature. So advertising and other marketing agencies, graphic and other design studios, music and recording studios, and of course film and theatre and dance professions, writers of all hues, you get the idea.
There are of course exceptions to every rule, but generally people who have ADHD flourish in jobs where they are required to create something new, where every day is different, and where every task has unique requirements.
If you think about it, creating something original usually means breaking a rule!
Clearly then, jobs with a high degree of routine, and strict rules will soon break an ADDer.
In business as in family and friends, the golden rule is that only immediate family with carefully considered exceptions must apply.