Love is a many spendored thing! The title of a song and movie and a soap opera
Love is many different things to different people at different times
Love is only ever real when it is a verb. Telling someone you love them is just so much hot air unless there is an action to accompany the words
Love is an action that causes the lover and the loved to "feel" in love
When that happens - the feeling of being loved - amazing things start to happen. Powerful Affirming Love is by it's very nature, unconditional. It focuses and builds on the good and positive, and "ignores"the bad and negative
Love doesn't mean always being nice. To be in the company of children who are not loved you only need to go to a restaurant and experience unruly and rude children
They are spoilt - not loved
Lets look at some of the synonyms for the word affirm.
These are all powerrful words that build on the positive. They build a person up. They provide a direction to the future. They enable the creation of an image of who the loved person can be
Most importantly, they communicate in so many different ways, that the person being loved is "worthy!"
To be able to say to yourself, "I am worthy, worthy of being loved," is simply the most powerful self-talk
When you are worthy, you know you are valuable.
You know there's a purpose to getting out of bed every morning, whether you are doing love, or receiving it
Think about some of the things we do and say to our ADHD loved ones, spouses, partners and children. They are often well meant, but do they affirm that person in a loving way?
This concept of Powerful Affirming Love is the bedrock of all treatments for ADHD. Even, and especially medication.
Does giving your child medication constitute love? Does witholding medication mean you love them?
We will explore these points more in other articles.
Know The Jargon - ADHD Acronyms
ADDer - a person who has ADHD or ADD
ADHD - Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder
ADD - Attention Deficit Disorder
SCT - Sluggish Cognitive Tempo - a new name for ADD
ODD - Oppositional Defiance Disorder
CD - Conduct Disorder
OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Bi-polar - Bi-polar Disorder, used to be Manic-Depression
SPD - Sensory Processing Disorder
PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder
ACT - Action Consequence Trigger - monitoring forms devised and supplied by Living ADDventure®