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Written by Dave Pughe-Parry Dave Pughe-Parry
Last Updated: 15 June 2017 15 June 2017

Love is a many spendored thing! The title of a song and movie and a soap opera

BabyTrustSizedLove is many different things to different people at different times

BUT!

Love is only ever real when it is a verb. Telling someone you love them is just so much hot air unless there is an action to accompany the words

Love is an action that causes the lover and the loved to "feel" in love

When that happens - the feeling of being loved - amazing things start to happen. Powerful Affirming Love is by it's very nature, unconditional. It focuses and builds on the good and positive, and "ignores"the bad and negative

Love doesn't mean always being nice. To be in the company of children who are not loved you only need to go to a restaurant and experience unruly and rude children

They are spoilt - not loved

Lets look at some of the synonyms for the word affirm.

These are all powerrful words that build on the positive. They build a person up. They provide a direction to the future. They enable the creation of an image of who the loved  person can be

Helping FootMost importantly, they communicate in so many different ways, that the person being loved is "worthy!"

To be able to say to yourself, "I am worthy, worthy of being loved," is simply the most powerful self-talk

When you are worthy, you know you are valuable.

You know there's a purpose to getting out of bed every morning, whether you are doing love, or receiving it

Think about some of the things we do and say to our ADHD loved ones, spouses, partners and children. They are often well meant, but do they affirm that person in a loving way?

This concept of Powerful Affirming Love is the bedrock of all treatments for ADHD. Even, and especially medication.

Does giving your child medication constitute love? Does witholding medication mean you love them?

We will explore these points more in other articles.



 

Know The Jargon - ADHD Acronyms

ADDer - a person who has ADHD or ADD

ADHD - Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder

ADD - Attention Deficit Disorder

SCT - Sluggish Cognitive Tempo - a new name for ADD

ODD - Oppositional Defiance Disorder

CD - Conduct Disorder

OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

 Bi-polar - Bi-polar Disorder, used to be Manic-Depression 

SPD - Sensory Processing Disorder

PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder

ACT -  Action Consequence Trigger - monitoring forms devised and supplied by Living ADDventure®