- Written by Pat Pughe-Parry Pat Pughe-Parry
- Parent Category: ADHD Treatment ADHD Treatment
- Published: 10 February 2015 10 February 2015
Imagine you are a tennis player and you are regularly in the top 10 in the world but you just can’t crack that grand slam win.
You decide to employ a former World Number 1 winner to be your Coach.
Your Coach says that your serve will improve dramatically if you change the way you toss the ball. You try and do it her way and completely miss and then you serve fault after fault after fault. After an hour or two or perhaps even a week it is still not working for you.
How do you respond?
The Coach is wrong so you fire her, or do you persevere until your body learns the new way of tossing the ball and you suddenly “get it”?
You have been playing tennis since you were 4 and along the way you have learned many skills but also bad habits and missed out on different skills.
This is what Coaching is about. It is about taking a decision to do things differently and then persevering on a daily basis, as it is so easy to slip back into the way you always have done things in the past.
Making the decision to change is step one. From there the Coaching Process takes you through how to set goals for your new way of life, how to think critically about everything. You learn to question every aspect of your life. Are my thoughts and beliefs about my intelligence, my culture, my religion, my family, my friends, my work etc., really, who I am?
Is this how I want to be remembered?
Living ADDventure® ADHD Coaching focuses on these principles. You can’t change what happened in the past but you can choose to live your life differently from today onwards. You can make the decision that you don’t want to be known as the person who is always late for meetings, is disorganised, interrupts all the time and is always getting fired.
It is not a magic bullet, nor is it a quick process. But the rewards are immense when you find the real you and you start to live a contented and productive life.
None of us can ask for more.