- Written by Doc Shirley Doc Shirley
- Parent Category: GuruTalk GuruTalk
- Last Updated: 03 July 2019 03 July 2019
In plain language:-
EEIISSHH! We have been called many names but please understand our struggle…
ADHD is not a myth, not a mind game, we are not kids and adults who are just plain mad, sad or bad.
We struggle against a medical, neurological condition, a brain short circuit in some areas!The dopamine that is supposed to travel from one circuit to the next gets involuntarily misdirected, re-routed, mopped up, or literally lost in thought!
ADD makes it extra difficult for people of all ages not to miss out or to mess up in life.
We have trouble sticking to something,
Sticking to the instruction from mom, from the teacher, from the boss
Sticking to the chair at school or at the table or in the meeting
Sticking to the topic, in conversation, in an e-mail, on the net
Sticking to the homework, to the deadline, to the most important stuff
Sticking to the goal, sticking to the job, sticking to the marriage.
We are often caught up in a world of our own, in our thoughts, in our feelings, out the window.
We tend to get stuck on something else
The toy instead of the toothbrush
The techno instead of the teacher
The sport instead of the studies
The home movies instead of the homework
The emotion instead of the notion
The fun instead of finishing.
We have high speed brains with bicycle brakes. A runaway train that struggles to stay on track. We are often driven instead of driving ourselves. We get driven to places we don’t want to be and seldom get to places we really wanted to be, or intended to go to. Driven to distraction. Driven by impulse. Pushing the boundaries.
We often don’t see the guardrails on the sides of the roads that protect us from danger or stop in time. We struggle to stop and think!
stop what we were going to say
look before we leap
think before we act
wait when we want something.
The downhills are easy – when it’s about the stuff we like doing but the uphills are a huge effort. The higher the hill, the slower we are to get going. Procrastination means we often don’t even leave the station!
ADHD is mostly FROM mom or dad, like how tall you are.
ADHD is mostly NOT because of mom or dad and how they brought you up.
So we can’t change our genes, this is the model of car we were potentially given but we can give it the right petrol and keep it on track, follow the map, the narrow road and avoid too many detours. It has been proven that early intervention is beneficial. That is before too many wrong tracks, erosion paths, poor self esteem, bad habits, lists of failures and criticisms are carved out in a developing brain.
Research shows that with medicine and management tools are highly effective. And with the Maker’s grace, much damage is avoided and can even be reversed. Medicine limits the short circuits in the wiring of the brain. Medicine acts as temporary gates that keep your natural dopamine on track but you still have to learn to drive and maintain your car, your brain. It doesn’t help you have the map if you don’t have any petrol, life has very few turns where you can free-wheel or idle.
Make sure your engine, your brain is clean. Eat well, sleep well and exercise. Service your engine, see a mechanic, check the Words in the user manual. Use a maintenance plan, a check up to see if the wheels are about to fall off? Just because you feel ok, doesn’t mean your wheels aren’t worn thin.
We are spirit, we have a mind and emotions and we live in a physical body. We can’t just fuel the one part.
There are likely to be major problems if we don’t overcome ADHD,
Or if we miss it,
Or if we mistreat it,
Or if we treat it as a joke!
It’s OK if your child doesn’t get an A+ but
Is it OK if he drops out of school, repeats a year, drops out of university, loses his job?
What’s the value of your child’s self-image, confidence and belief in who he was designed to be?
Is it OK if he has few friends or mostly hangs out with the wrong crowd, or gets in trouble with the cops?
Is it OK if your relationship with him is damaged?
Would you risk that your child being addicted to cigarettes or drugs or alcohol?
Is it OK to risk a 40% chance of teen pregnancy?
If your child had a condition that put him at risk of having a car accident wouldn’t you seek help?
If you could do anything to help him not have to experience depression would you try it?
EEIISSHH! We can’t afford to ignore ADHD!
We are not stupid or lazy or crazy – we are warring against ADHD. We just need to have help to harness our potential. Too reign in our horse-power.